Sexual Energy: Life Force for Healing and Creativity
Sexual energy is life force energy - the same current that fuels creativity, healing, and transformation. The spark that brings ideas (and even new life) into being.
Yet, for many, sexual energy can be wrapped in layers of misunderstanding, shame, or fear. Thoughts like this energy only are something purely physical, or even “dirty or wrong” when in truth, it’s one of the most natural and powerful energies we carry.
When allowed to move freely, sexual energy isn’t just about pleasure. It’s about wholeness. It softens old wounds, opens the heart, and invites us to reconnect with the most authentic parts of ourselves.
So yes, sexual energy is deeply healing - and no, it’s not “dark” in itself. In fact, it’s often one of the purest, most transformative energies we can work with.
Below is an attempt to explore a few things, but do note that this is personal reflections, knowledge I have gained through my practice and a variety of education in energy - but I am no sexual therapist or similar.
What sexual energy really is (beyond sex).
Why it’s so healing and how it relates to trauma release.
Why we often fear or suppress it - and what happens when we allow it to flow.
How you can connect with your sexual energy in safe, empowering ways.
How astrology connects to sexual and life force energy (well, I could not forget about this one)
What Sexual Energy Really Is
Let’s start with a truth that might feel radical: sexual energy is not separate from your everyday energy.
It’s the same energy that makes you feel alive when you create something beautiful, when you dance, when you laugh, when you feel deeply connected to life. In Eastern traditions, this is called prana or chi - the vital life force that moves through every living thing.
Sexual energy lives primarily in the sacral chakra (just below the navel) and is closely connected to the root chakra (our sense of safety and belonging). But it doesn’t stay there - it flows upward, weaving through every energy center, touching creativity, heart, voice, and even spiritual awareness.
This energy is creative at its core. It’s literally the energy of creation — of life, of ideas, of passion. It is deeply embodied, and because of that, it’s also deeply honest. You can’t fake it. When you connect with this energy, you meet yourself in a raw, unfiltered way.
Why Sexual Energy is Healing
1. It connects you to your life force.
When your sexual energy flows freely, you feel alive. It’s not just about sexuality - it’s about vitality. People often notice that when they are connected to their sexual energy, they feel more creative, inspired, and magnetic. The body wakes up. The mind clears.
2. It releases stored emotions and trauma.
The sacral area (pelvis, hips, lower belly) is a common place where old emotions and trauma are stored - especially trauma related to shame, rejection, or feeling “not good enough.” When you allow sexual energy to move - through breath, movement, dynamic meditation, or conscious awareness - it can unlock these stuck places and bring healing.
This doesn’t mean forcing anything. It’s not about “using sex to heal.” It’s about letting your energy become soft and fluid, so your body can release what it’s been holding.
3. It invites authenticity and vulnerability.
Sexual energy has a way of stripping away the masks we wear. When you connect with it, you meet your truest self - your desires, your boundaries, your yes and your no. It’s like standing naked, not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually.
4. It opens the heart.
When sexual energy rises, it naturally moves toward the heart. This blending of desire and love creates a powerful, healing field. It softens the walls we build and lets us feel both deeply connected and safe.
Sexual Energy vs. Desire
Sexual energy is often confused with lust or desire. While they share the same root energy, desire is more like the focused expression of that energy — the way it’s channeled toward someone or something.
Sexual energy itself is neutral. It’s simply your life force, the pulse of creativity and vitality that moves through you. When you feel desire, it’s as if that energy is given direction, a spark toward connection, intimacy, or even creative action.
This is why sexual energy can be felt and cultivated even when you’re not in a state of “lust.” It’s a well of aliveness that you can channel into art, movement, healing, or simply being deeply present in your own body.
Sexual Energy, Lust, and Transformation
One of the fascinating things about sexual energy is that it can both drain or amplify us - depending on how we engage with it. 🤗
Unconscious or disconnected sexual expression, especially for men, is often described as depleting. It’s like letting the energy “leak out” rather than using it as fuel for vitality. Women, on the other hand, often find that orgasm can build and circulate energy - when there’s connection and presence.
When sexual energy is approached consciously (whether solo or with a partner), it becomes transformative. Instead of being consumed, it expands. It rises up through the body, awakening the heart, creativity, and even spiritual awareness. Tantra speaks beautifully about this: the more present and open we are to the energy, the more it nourishes instead of drains.
Is Sexual Energy Dark?
No.
But it can feel dark when it stirs up what we’ve buried.
Sexual energy is primal - it goes straight to the core of our being. And if there are wounds there - like shame, guilt, or fear - those will surface when we work with this energy.
It’s not the energy that’s dark - it’s the shadows we haven’t yet met.
When you meet sexual energy with awareness and safety, it becomes a channel for transformation. That’s why practices like tantra or certain forms of breathwork use sexual energy - because it’s a direct path to aliveness and wholeness.
Sometimes, sexual energy is misunderstood as “dark,” especially when it’s tied to power play or dynamics of control and submission. But that’s not the same as life force. True sexual energy is not about controlling or dominating — it’s about opening, softening, and allowing life force to move freely.
And of course, if it’s a two-way game or conscious role play - well, that’s different. Then it becomes a fun, consensual, creative spark — another form of energy play, rather than suppression or shadow.
Healing sexual energy, though, isn’t about roles or games - it’s about coming home to yourself, your truth, and your freedom.
Why Sexual Energy is Often Suppressed
Most of us were never taught how to work with this energy. Instead, we were taught to hide it, fear it, or see it as something “inappropriate.”
As a result, sexual energy becomes stagnant. We feel cut off from our own life force. We might feel tired, uninspired, or even numb. Or we overcompensate by chasing intense experiences - thinking that will bring us alive - but without the integration that true sexual energy offers.
For women, this might show up as feeling “disconnected from the body” or unable to access pleasure. For men, it can show up as over-focus on performance or a fear of being vulnerable.
But when we reclaim this energy - when we let it move through us without shame - it’s like coming home.
Astrology’s Take on Sexual Energy
Astrology offers a beautiful lens for understanding sexual and creative energy. Every sign carries life force energy — but expresses it differently:
Fire signs (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius): Express sexual energy as bold passion, charisma, and action.
Water signs (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces): Experience it as emotional intimacy, merging, and depth.
Earth signs (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn): Channel it through sensuality, presence, and grounded physicality.
Air signs (Gemini, Libra, Aquarius): Explore it mentally, through curiosity, communication, and ideas.
Scorpio is the alchemist of sexual energy.
Ruled by Mars (desire) and Pluto (transformation), Scorpio energy is raw, magnetic, and deeply healing. It doesn’t just feel sexual energy - it transforms it. For Scorpios, sexual energy often becomes a path to emotional truth, spiritual awakening, and creative fire.
Did you know? Scorpio is linked to the 8th house — the house of sex, death, rebirth, and shared energy. That’s why people often feel Scorpio energy the moment it walks into the room. It’s not about seduction - it’s about presence, depth, and a kind of “I see you” intensity that few other signs carry.
How to Connect with Your Sexual Energy
You don’t need a partner. You don’t even need to “do” anything physical. Here are some ways to gently reconnect:
1. Breathwork and Active Meditation
Circular breathwork (the style I guide) is an incredible tool for awakening this energy. By first engaging the sympathetic nervous system, we can stir up the layers of stored emotion, tension, and stagnant energy. Then, through continuous breath, we soften and shift into parasympathetic integration. Often, the sacral area begins to “wake up” naturally, inviting both release and flow.
Active meditations (such as Chakra Meditation) are also powerful here, combining breath and movement to shake off mental control and open space for energy to move freely.
2. Movement.
Slow, intuitive movement of the hips and pelvis can unlock stored energy. Think dancing, swaying, or even gentle hip circles.
3. Touch and awareness.
Place your hands on your lower belly or pelvis. Breathe into that area. See if you can simply feel it - without judgment, without forcing.
4. Creative expression.
Because sexual energy is creative energy, doing something creative (writing, painting, singing, etc.) is a great way for activating it
5. Release shame.
Notice where you feel shame around your body, pleasure, or desires - and practice softening that inner voice.
Breathwork, Meditation, Movement to expand your energy and life force
Sexual Energy and the Nervous System
Sexual energy also affects your nervous system. It can bring you into a heightened state (sympathetic activation) but, when allowed to move and release, it often guides you into deep rest (parasympathetic).
This is one reason why sexual energy can feel both intense and calming - it creates a cycle of activation and release, which mirrors the natural rhythms of life.
Final Thoughts
Sexual energy is not something to fear or suppress. It’s not just about intimacy or sex. It’s your life force, your creative current, your link to feeling fully alive.
When you meet it with presence, this energy can heal — not because it’s “magical” in a fantasy sense, but because it is true. Real. It’s raw, honest, and deeply connected to the essence of who you are.
If you’ve ever felt stuck, numb, or like you’re living only “half alive,” exploring your sexual energy might be the missing key. Not in a way that’s performative or forced — but by creating space to feel, to move, and to let your energy flow freely.
My Experience: Why This Energy Heals
Some say I “radiate” a certain energy, hard to judge myself haha, but I know I am not afraid of sexual energy - in myself or in others. I believe this comes from being deeply connected to my own life force - not from anything sexual, but from presence and alignment with this inner current.
When I hold space, whether in breathwork sessions or energy work, I meet this energy with openness and curiosity, not judgment. I see it - I feel it - as pure life force. I don’t feel the need to chase it, control it, or hide it. Life force is what keeps me grounded, vibrant, and present.
It’s not about seduction. It’s about aliveness. It’s about creating a container where all energy is welcome - where nothing needs to be suppressed or hidden.
Inquiry for You
Where in my life do I feel most alive, magnetic, and deeply creative?
Want to Explore Energy More?
In my group or 1:1 breathwork sessions, we often work with this energy - not through anything sexual at all, but through presence, breath, and allowing the body to remember its own life force. (And if you are looking for more specific intimate sessions- I can absolutely advice you in another direction)
Or, if you feel for working with me over 12 weeks in a combination of breathwork, Coaching and energy - read more here.
Or, if you want to start gently, my 10 Days of Breath & Meditation is a beautiful entry point. You’ll find guided audios that help you reconnect with your body and energy in a safe, grounded way.
Because in the end, healing isn’t about adding more. It’s about coming home to the energy that’s already yours.
Raise your vibration and energy to find the realness within. Real is Rare 🤗
